The huggers of the world. Please stand up!… Have you ever noticed even among friendship circles that some of us are huggers and some of us are simply not!

So what happens in the work environment and what is appropriate?? I wasn’t aware that there are hugging rules so, I stand educated by no other than 20 year HR/Recruiting Talent Pro Tim Sackett. It looks like he has it all covered.

The Hugging Rules

  1. Don’t hug those you supervise. (The caveats: You can hug a subordinate if: it’s being supportive in a non-creepy way (major family or personal loss – sideways, kind of arm around the shoulder, you care about them hug); it’s at a wedding and you are congratulating them; it’s a hug for a professional win (promotion, giant sale, big project completion, etc.) and it’s with a group, not alone in your office with the lights off; you would feel comfortable with your spouse standing next you and watching that specific hug.)
  2. Hug your external customers or clients when they initiate hugging sequence. (The caveats: Don’t hug if: it is required to get business – that’s not hugging, that harassment. Don’t let the hug last more than a second or two, or it gets creepy. Don’t mention the hug afterwards; that makes you seem creepy!)
  3. Don’t hug the person you’re having an affair with in the office. (No explanation needed)
  4. Hug peers, just not every day. (It’s alright to hug, but you don’t need to do it everyday for people you see everyday. Save some up and make it special!)
  5. When you hug, hug for real. (Nothing worse than the ‘fake hug’! A fake hug is worse than a non-hug.)
  6. Don’t whisper, ‘You smell good,’ when hugging someone professionally. (That’s creepy – in fact don’t whisper anything while hugging!)
  7. Don’t close your eyes while hugging professionally. (That’s weird and a bit stalker-ish)
  8. It is alright to announce a hug is coming. (Some people will appreciate a – ‘Hey, Come here: I’m giving you a hug – it’s been a long time!’)
  9. It’s never alright to hug from behind. (Creepier!)
  10.  Never hug in the restroom. (It makes for awkward moments when other employees walk in and see that.)
  11. If you’re questioning yourself whether it will be alright to Hug someone professionally, that is your cue that it probably isn’t.

Thank you for the education Tim Sackett from the Tim Sackett Project.